Hey, guys. So, I’m answering another question that came in, and it’s a really good question to think through. It’s a difficult question. And I know that just even a short video might not answer everything on this question.
Question: “I have severe depression, anxiety, as well as suicidal thoughts. What are some ways to help me move away from all of this?”
The first thing I want to say is thank you for reaching out with this question. I would encourage you to continue to reach out to somebody, whether it’s myself, Pastor Keegan, or someone in your life that you know and trust. You need to really talk through this with someone face to face because it’s a real thing.
You don’t need to feel condemned or judged for having some of these thoughts, but it is something that we would want to talk through with you because it can be very heavy. But I want to give you a couple of things to chew on as you think about this.
The first thing comes from Genesis Chapter 1. Going all the way back to the story of the Creation and the foundations of the Earth, Genesis 1:27 NIV reads:
“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.”
And just this idea of going all the way back to the creation of what a human being is, we see here the great value that God places on human beings. And speaking to you very personally, if you’re struggling with anxiety, depression, or suicidal thoughts, this is a great foundation to go back to. God created you, and He put so much value in you that He created you in his image.
Regardless of your past and the things you’re going through right now, the truth about you is that you have great value because you are an image bearer of God. And, with that, we know that God has placed tremendous value and worth upon your life.
So, we know, as we look at that, that’s the truth. We know that we don’t always feel that. I’ll be the first one to share that I don’t always feel worthy or valued. There are moments where depression or anxiety can come into my life. And so, I know that those things are very real. But we have to take those feelings and those thoughts back to the Word of God.
I really like the phrase, “Feel your feelings. But then, filter your feelings through God’s Word.“
So, we feel our feelings. It’s okay to feel. We know that God was an emotional God and that feelings can be used in a very good and powerful way. But we also know that our feelings can sometimes be deceptive. So, we want to feel our feelings and acknowledge them. Don’t suppress or ignore your emotions. But instead, take them to the Lord and filter them through what God’s Word says about you.
Your feeling might say that you feel worthless and that your life would be better off if you just ended it. That’s a feeling. But then, the truth of God’s Word as we filter that through, the truth is your life is valuable, that God has given you a purpose, and that you have been created in God’s image. So, we can take all of those things, and we can start to take them through God’s Word, which can help renew our minds in some ways.
As you walk through some of these things, remember God’s promises about who you are. And then, something practical I would encourage you to do is spend some time in Philippians Chapter 4. Philippians Chapter 4 is my go-to chapter when I’m feeling emotions of anxiety or whatever it might be. I believe that God wants to speak to you in this. If you’re wrestling with suicidal thoughts, this is a great practical place to start by praying through Philippians 4:6-7 NLT:
“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.”
So, I want to pause there really quickly because Paul says, “Don’t worry about anything.”
In translation, Philippians 4:6-7 NLT: he says, “Be anxious for nothing.”
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.”
I’m like, “Man, Paul, that’s not realistic. How could I not be anxious for anything? How can I not worry about anything?”
But I remember the context of where Paul’s writing this. He’s writing these words, “Don’t worry about anything,” as he’s been betrayed by his friend, sitting in prison, locked up, possibly facing the end of his life. And he writes these words inspired by the Holy Spirit. He says, “Hey, don’t worry about anything. Be anxious for nothing.”
I want to tap into what God was ministering to Paul at that moment so that he could have the confidence and the boldness to write this. And so, he says, “Instead of worrying, we should pray about everything. Tell God what you need and thank Him for all He has done.”
The first place we want to go to with our thoughts of anxiety, depression, and suicidal ideations we want to take those to the Lord. Tell Him about it. Verbalize those things to Him. Sometimes, we suppress the emotions and the feelings so deep that we can’t even formulate them in our mind of really what’s going on. And so, it’s really helpful for us to pray those things to the Lord. Pray them out loud, and bring them to the light. Bring someone else into this prayer with you and really express your emotions before the Lord.
In that, also thank Him for what He’s done. I know that can be really hard to do when we’re in a season of discouragement, but use that as a model for your life or just try to find something—one thing a day, even just to say, “God, thank you for whatever this is.” The heart of thanksgiving will often saturate the rest of our lives and help us in those moments.
He says, “Tell God, thank Him.” And then, the promise in these things as we tell God, as we open up our whole lives, and our whole mind, and everything before the Lord, as we do these things. The promise that God has for us, as he says in Philippians 4:6-7 NLT:
“You will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand, and His peace will guard your hearts and mind as you live in Christ Jesus.”
Isn’t it true how much we need the peace of God to guard our hearts and our minds? Because as we think about anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts, all of these things, that’s where the battlefield is. It’s all in our mind; it’s all in our heart; it’s all internalized, and how we need God’s peace to protect us and to guard us in those things. And how do we do this? How do we allow this? First and foremost, go to the Lord, tell Him everything, and open up before the Lord.
And then, in Philippians 4:8-9 NLT, it continues.
“And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Keep putting into practice all you learned and received from me—everything you heard from me and saw me doing. Then the God of peace will be with you.”
And so the practical thing to do in our lives is to start fixing our thoughts on the true things, the honorable things, the pure, the just, and the right. So, it goes back to that idea of feeling our feelings, but then we filter them through the Word of God.
- What does God’s Word say about this?
- What is the truth of God’s Word?
- Is this a pure thought?
- Is this a lovely thought?
- Is this a right thought?
- Is this excellent and worthy of praise?
- Or is this a lie?
- Is this not lining up with what God says about me in his word?
Spend some time there in Philippians 4. I encourage you to pray through it and really, for real, reach out to someone. Reach out to me or someone who’s close to you because you need people in your life as you walk through these strong and real emotions.
You’re not alone; God is with you, and there are other people who want to be with you in this. And so I hope that you do. I’m praying for you. I know this is a really real question, and there’s so much more to be said. So please continue the dialogue in this.
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