Navigating Singleness: Trusting God’s Plan

Question: How do I stay encouraged in singleness and trust that God has someone for me? Also, how do I deal with the doubt and insecurity while waiting?

Answer: Finding Hope in God’s Promises

I’m going to do my best to give a brief but clear answer. In this question, obviously, we have one of our youths who has a desire for a relationship but is struggling with singleness. And just asking the question, “How can I trust that God really has someone for me?”

Psalm 37:4 NKJV says, 

“Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He will give the desires of your heart.” 

Patience and God’s Timing

And so, a very important component of this is that I believe even that very desire for a relationship can be God-given. However, if I’m not careful, I can take a God-given desire and then try to have it come to pass or come to fruition in my own ability, and that’s a very dangerous thing. 

If you’re familiar with the Bible story of Abraham and Sarah, they had received a promise, but they were waiting for this promised son. And in their own understanding and wisdom, they had Ishmael, who didn’t come from Abraham and Sarah but came from Abraham and Sarah’s servant. 

Even though Ishmael was not the promised son, we can, in essence, create Ishmaels in our lives by doing things outside of God’s timing. So, patience—waiting patiently upon the Lord—is a big part of that.

Drawing Strength from Scripture

And so, what do we do, and how can we stay encouraged? My big thing for you is in 1 Samuel Chapter 30, which is what came to mind when I read this question. 

1 Samuel 30:6 NLT; it says, 

“But David found strength in the Lord, his God.” 

Or there’s another translation 1 Samuel 30:6 KJV; that says, 

“David encouraged himself in the Lord, his God.” 

Trusting God’s Plan

That’s really the answer that I give to you. You just have to trust that God’s Plan is better than yours.

This is in many areas of life, right? You might be looking at your future careers, or you’ll be looking at, “What am I to do in schooling?” and all these areas of life. 

Proverbs 3:5-6 NIV

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge Him, and He’ll direct your paths.” 

Seeking Guidance and Support

That’s a very deep question, and I feel like it requires a little personal counsel, too. So, I’d encourage you to talk to a pastor or a parent. A spiritual leader in your life can give you great direction with a question like that. Thank you for asking, and I hope it helps. 

God bless you.

source https://calvaryyouth.org/biblical-answers/navigating-singleness-trusting-gods-plan/